“We are strangely obsessed with oppression and offense. It's damning and dangerous. This doesn't mean oppression doesn't exist--it does in ways both sides either cannot or will not admit--because it exists to varying degrees within all categories as well as across categories. Any set of categories on any continent in any country. This doesn't mean offenses don't exist--they do in ways both sides either cannot or will not admit--because they exist to varying degrees wi